Hi, I’m James Traub.

I started Inner State Coaching to support men in two core arenas:

• Navigating relational crisis—whether it’s the emotional chaos of divorce, separation, or the tension around making hard relational decisions

• Growing into relational leadership—cultivating the emotional intelligence, clarity, and integrity needed to lead in family, work, and fatherhood

My own life led me here…

After a sabbatical brought on by burnout and anxiety in the corporate world, I discovered how rich the interior of a man’s life could—and needed—to be. That journey included deep work with therapists, immersion in yoga and men’s retreats, and study of attachment, nervous system regulation, emotional intelligence, masculinity, and more.

That path eventually led me to work with men facing some of the hardest questions in their relationships. I became certified as a Divorce Coach not because I set out to specialize in separation, but because I saw how many men were entering that process without the tools, guidance, or inner stability they needed.

Over time, I realized that the same emotional skills that help a man move through divorce with integrity—clarity, communication, presence, leadership—are the very same skills that allow him to grow, repair, and lead inside of a relationship. That’s what brought me to this work.

What I Do

1. Divorce & Separation Coaching

Your divorce doesn’t have to be defined by conflict, regret, or letting go of your future. With compassion and practical strategy, I help men:

• Navigate process and communication choices wisely

• Protect relationships with their children while maintaining professional clarity

• Transform crisis into opportunity for growth

2. Relational Leadership Coaching

Your personal relationships—work, marriage, fatherhood—are the stage for your most real growth. Together we explore:

• Your emotional patterns and attachment dynamics

• Nervous system regulation and how it affects relational presence

• Conflict styles, polarity in intimacy, and your capacity to lead with love and integrity

Learn More

• If you’re considering separation or divorce, start with a strategy session to map what matters most—your relationships, your future vision, your peace.

• If you’re deeply engaged in your relationships and want to lead with integrity and presence, the Men’s Roundtable and Relational Leadership coaching could be your next step.

Let’s begin where you are.

Compassionate support, designed for men taking real responsibility.

Ready to talk or meet?

Send me an email at james@innerstate.life