I help men find clarity in times of change and depth in seasons of growth.
Every man faces moments when something in his life or relationship asks for more — more honesty, more awareness, more courage. Through coaching and community, I help men navigate transitions, strengthen relationships, and lead with presence.
Two Ways to Begin the Work
Every man’s journey looks a little different. Some are navigating major life transitions; others are ready to grow in relationship, leadership, and self-awareness. Wherever you are, there’s a clear place to start.
Divorce Coaching
When a marriage reaches its breaking point, the decisions that follow shape everything — family, finances, and peace of mind. Divorce coaching offers clarity, strategy, and emotional steadiness so you can move forward with integrity — and without unnecessary conflict.
Men’s Work & Community
For men ready to expand beyond achievement into deeper purpose and connection. Men of Presence blends insight, practice, and brotherhood — helping men lead themselves and their relationships with greater clarity, integrity, and heart.
Two paths. One intention: helping men find clarity in times of change and depth in seasons of growth.
About James Traub
Certified Divorce Coach® & Men’s Relational Leadership Coach
Hi, I’m James.
After a corporate leadership career and a personal sabbatical sparked by burnout and anxiety, I discovered something clear: men’s inner lives are too often overlooked — and yet they’re the foundation of how we lead our relationships, our families, and our futures.
I trained deeply — in coaching, men’s retreats, Jungian psychology, polyvagal theory, emotional intelligence, and masculine leadership — because I saw how men often enter life’s difficult transitions (divorce, separation, identity shifts) without clarity or support.
But over time I realized something even more important: the same emotional skills that help a man navigate crisis — presence, communication, self-leadership — are the exact skills that allow him to thrive in every season of life. Whether you’re managing change or stepping into something bigger, the path is the same.
What I Do
Divorce & Separation Coaching: Helping men move through relational transitions with integrity, clarity, and peace of mind.
Relational Leadership & Men’s Work: Supporting men who are committed to growth — in self, in relationship, in leadership — through community, dialogue, and personal practice.
Why Work With Me
I believe every man has the capacity to lead himself — and when he does, his relationships, his family, and his future change. If you’re ready to move from stress to structure, from isolation to brotherhood, from change to expansion, then you’re in the right place.
Let’s begin where you are, and move toward where you want to go.
TESTIMONIALS
What Other Men Are Saying
Ted - Divorce Coaching Client:
James kept me focused on what was important, recognizing the emotions but focusing on logical next steps. It was absolutely critical for me to have coaching to create the kind of future I wanted for me and my family.
KR - Divorce Coaching Client:
Working with James has been nothing short of transformative during one of the most challenging chapters of my life. Navigating the emotional upheaval of a divorce can feel overwhelming and he provided the clarity I desperately needed.
Steve - Roundtable Member:
By consistently showing up to the Roundtable meetings I have been able to gather a sense of awareness and control over my part in my relationship and my life.
David - Relationship Coaching Client:
For me, the biggest thing was the confidence I gained from being able to share openly about my relationship without feeling judged. James never reflected back that I was ‘weird’ for what I shared—he just listened and helped me see things more clearly.
Roundtable Member:
I joined during a season of major change — career shifts, relationship struggles, and loss — and didn’t have a strong support team. This group has given me that. It’s challenged me to focus on what’s within my control and helped me stop feeling like I’m just winging it.
Andrew - Roundtable Member:
The Roundtable is a valuable opportunity to connect, learn, share, and grow with other men.
How the Work Feels
A lot of men read books, listen to podcasts, and collect insights — but still find themselves repeating the same patterns. Growth doesn’t come from more information; it comes from practice, reflection, and the company of men who hold you accountable to what you say you want.
In the Men of Presence community, we don’t just talk about change — we practice it. Through rhythm, conversation, and real connection, you start to live the work instead of just learning it.
Weekly Book Club Discussions — Guided conversations around foundational texts, no fluff, just meaningful dialogue and insights that stick.
Monthly Men’s Circles — In-person gatherings where you engage in deeper reflection, connection, and practice with other men.
Personal Accountability — You’ll have space to test what you’re learning, apply it between sessions, and be supported by a community of men doing the same.
Optional 1:1 Coaching (for those ready) — If you want to go deeper, you can pair your group experience with personal sessions to integrate what you’re discovering.
Ready to see what this actually looks like?